My last post dealt with words that have to do with our state of mind, words that have a lot of power to influence us in how we act and can determine what lies ahead. Words are powerful. Why? Because when used and used often they determine what it is we do. Words are not just something we say, they are very influential in how we act. There is a saying, say something enough and it becomes the truth. I’ve written posts that talk about our state of mind and how we have already failed something even before doing it. As we know, the mind will quit before the body does. Read some of my posts and you will get a better understanding of this.
I’ve seen it. I live it daily. Because of my passion of fitness, it’s something that sticks out to me and probably not noticed by most people. I think it also has to do with that in my spare time, when I’m indulged in my passion of karate I see people who constantly push themselves to the point that they are disappointed when they cannot perform to their expectations due to injury. This is when I have to tell them that they need to not do certain things if it aggravates the injury. And when I tell them this I can see the disappointment in their eyes.
Let me add a bit of clarity to this. I train with and teach people from as young as 3 up to people in their 60’s. And we train hard! I don’t make that claim lightly and I don’t make that claim because I’m talking about the club I train at. And I’m not naive. I’ve been training at this club for a number of years and there is a consistency regarding the training. It’s demanding. It’s the type of training that at the end of the night you are soaked with sweat. It’s the type of training that requires you to sometimes ask yourself why you are doing this, why are you pushing yourself so hard. But the answer comes afterwards when you can’t help but feel awesome and feel great physically and mentally. You feel this way because you are experiencing the physical aspects of working hard. Hormones being released, endorphins pumping through your veins. And you feel awesome because you have accomplished things that not many other people can do. You do this because you have the attitude that you can do it, and you will do it.
As a society we tend to fall into buckets with respect as to how we act, and the things we do. Society says that because you are a woman you should not do ‘A’ because that’s not what woman do. Society says because you are ‘X’ amount of years old you should not do ‘A’ because it’s time to slow down and relax. Society says because you have ‘X’ type of ailment, etc. that you should not do ‘A’ because you just shouldn’t. I think the reason these ideals live is because when someone goes against the grain, people feel uncomfortable, inadequate because they have chosen not to do these things. They feel inferior, and ultimately jealous. I think they also feel threatened. I’ve heard it myself, some people think I’m weird because I work out almost every day during my lunch time. Sometimes I’m laughed at because I don’t fit into their ideal of what I should be doing.
It doesn’t have to be that way. We don’t need to set limits on ourselves that have been created by others. If this was the case Terry Fox would have never walked across Canada raising awareness of cancer. Marilyn Bell would have never been the first woman to swim across lake Ontario if she listened to the naysayers. Jack LaLanne would have never towed 70 boats for a mile when he was 70 years old.
We have a choice. We can easily fall into the stereotype that exists for the person people see us as. Or we can be our own person and do what we want to do regardless of what others think. To me there is really only one choice. It’s your life, it’s up to you to make the choices that make you happy, the choices that at the end of the day you are happy about being the person you are.
Do you fall into the comfortableness of familiarity, the safety of staying the course or do you make the decision to change things, to take life into your own hands and be in control of your destiny? How many people have regrets that they didn’t? How many people wish they could go back and change the decision they made? A lot. It’s in your hands. You are your captain.
It’s up to you, you control your choices, you control what it is you do. Don’t let others influence you with their negativity. You can do it. You have the ability to become the person you want to become. You can decide that it’s time you take control of your life, instead of letting others do that for you.
Not to be harsh, but eff them. Let them drag themselves down and stay clear of the pull of the undertow, don’t get sucked in. You are awesome! You can do anything you choose to do. Don’t forget that. The future is in your hands. Make the choice you want to make.
Yours in health,